The Marriage of Heaven and Earth (In the Guadiya Vaishnava Tradition)
The union of marriage is based on such stability and this virtue is one of the main values that makes it truly sacred. To get married, according to the tradition, means to build a relationship founded on religious principles. This relationship’s value persists beyond time, regulates and harmonizes the entire emotional sphere through an eternal promise of fidelity, esteem, respect and cooperation in serving God. Marriage is in its essence a samskara.
The first samskara, garbhodana samskara, is celebrated before the child is even conceived, as it takes place when parents plan the act of procreation. From this first samskara to the last (that hopefully marks the great departure from the earthly dimension to a superior one) a major step in the path of the human being is the one that coincides with the samskara of marriage, vivaha samskara, when a person becomes two through the encounter with another soul, and together they form an indissoluble unity, while each maintains one's own autonomy and individuality.
Traditionally, marriage is conceived as a union between two persons having the higher purpose to help each other live fully and joyfully their humanity in order to accomplish their spiritual fulfillment.
Spiritual awareness is the greatest wish and the most precious gift we can offer to those who undertake the way to married life.
Spiritual awareness and the mutual affection that comes from it, helps us to face the trials and crises that are essential to overcome if we want to transcend our human limitations.
In order to avoid our wishes remaining vain, they should be based on spiritual Good because marriage does not only strive for the union of two bodies but for a particular relationship between two souls.
Since all of what we do on Earth has an impact in Heaven, the Good we want to build into the dimension of immortality should be carried out here, in this world and through the passage of time. May marriage be made sacred by respecting the principles of dharma, and may it always be enlivened by the awareness and joy of its spiritual dimension.
We can only forever possess what we offer as a sacrifice. On the other hand, we lose what we withhold selfishly. In reality, it was never truly ours to begin with.
Only what we love remains stable with and within us.
If we want to keep the treasure that is a relationship over time and make it always greater, satisfactory and beneficial to us and to others, we must invest in this treasure every day.
Even relationships, if they are not constantly nurtured day after day, become worn out and it becomes difficult to maintain them.
In fact, what is celebrated on the human level has only a subordinated value to what happens on the cosmic level. Marriage, in its essence of sacred union offered to God, invokes divine energies. It is anchored to eternal spiritual values ??and in this respect, it is an anthropo-cosmic event. Because of its spiritual value, it will exist eternally. No human act can exist without a divine association.
Religious marriage connects Earth to Heaven and is a tool of spiritual elevation and authentic Good for everyone.
To that end, we should learn to distinguish between authentic freedom and the vagaries of the mind.
An important criterion of distinction is the following: freedom does not hurt anybody, while the vagaries of the mind cause suffering to ourselves and to others. Solidarity and collaboration in the name of dharma as well as pursuing the principles of virtue and the highest spirituality, allow us to gradually get rid of the whims of the mind and to overcome all forms of egoism. Such a high achievement can only be the result of work on oneself over a long period of time. For this reason, an accurate preparation is indispensable for the most important choices in life, like marriage, in the Tradition. Preparation times may naturally vary from individual to individual.
"The earth is supported by the truth, the cosmic order is supported by the sun and all that exists.
I am poem, you are verse; I am heaven, you are earth.
May all devas join us.
May only one spirit dwell in us."
By virtue of religious marriage, may spouses live a full and happy life on Earth, earning Heaven.
Matsya Avatar das